Phew - if I get repetitive strain injury from all this typing I will have to consider suing my Old Man.......
Just a quick update from me. Since writing this today the doctors have been to Dave and drained off a stunning 1.2 litres of fluid from his right lung. This was a little uncomfortable during the process (a needle in to his back made easier by the use of some lignacaine in the area) and felt a little strange for a while afterwards as his lung returned to normal and reinflated. This evening he still had some pain in this area and was very tired.
We are now piecing together a number of events in the last few weeks. Me hearing a strange rattle in his chest a few times and Dave thinking on a couple of occasions that he had pulled a muscle in his chest as he was getting weaker. Now it all falls in to place.
Emma and I are missing having him around like mad and are hoping we can get him home as soon as possible. It has always been the tradition in our house ever since Emma was really really little that Emma and Dave go out and buy the christmas tree and then bring it home an decorate it whilst I am out of the house. It has been a source of amusement to our friends over the years as Dave has a habit of picking the worst tree on the stand ably assisted by Emma. We have had the almost completely bald tree, the tree that leant across the room at a 45 degree angle (rather than vertical) and the one that was so big that Dave had to lop 4 feet off the top to get it in our old front room. This year to help out Rob is getting the tree for us tomorrow and Emma and I will decorate it, but Emma is insisting that we leave a few decorations and the angel for Dave to put on the tree when he gets home as a finishing touch.
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If you want to contact Sarah her email address is sarah@lefrenchies.wanadoo.co.uk
If you want to contact Sarah her email address is sarah@lefrenchies.wanadoo.co.uk
Background Information
I'm a forty seven year old husband and father of one daughter, living in York, and it's about a year this November since I was told I had between one and three years to live.
Having been diagnosed in 2006 with bowel cancer, operated upon and being told thereafter that the cancer had all been removed, I thought I had made it through a relatively tough period in my life.
Then in 2007, when I was on holiday in Portugal with my wife and daughter, I began to experience some pains in the pelvis, and brought forward my planned October review to September. After a few tests, it turned out that the cancer had already been on the move before it was removed, and was now in my lungs (two small tumours in the right lung), on the prostate (as opposed to inside the prostate which is what happens with prostate cancer), and also in my lymph system (which is the means by which it had travelled elsewhere).
So, I have decided to publish this blog with a view to updating all those who are interested on the latest developments, and, perhaps, to provide some information that might help other people who have bowel cancer in whatever stages.
I hope that it's useful, and maybe (as some people have told me that I have been "inspiring" in my approach) give people some increased sense of hope.
Feel free to comment on anything you see here, and use it to get in touch with me if you want to do so.
Having been diagnosed in 2006 with bowel cancer, operated upon and being told thereafter that the cancer had all been removed, I thought I had made it through a relatively tough period in my life.
Then in 2007, when I was on holiday in Portugal with my wife and daughter, I began to experience some pains in the pelvis, and brought forward my planned October review to September. After a few tests, it turned out that the cancer had already been on the move before it was removed, and was now in my lungs (two small tumours in the right lung), on the prostate (as opposed to inside the prostate which is what happens with prostate cancer), and also in my lymph system (which is the means by which it had travelled elsewhere).
So, I have decided to publish this blog with a view to updating all those who are interested on the latest developments, and, perhaps, to provide some information that might help other people who have bowel cancer in whatever stages.
I hope that it's useful, and maybe (as some people have told me that I have been "inspiring" in my approach) give people some increased sense of hope.
Feel free to comment on anything you see here, and use it to get in touch with me if you want to do so.
Brief History
- October 2008: Get given a wheelchair - just in case!
- September 2008: Buy a walking stick! This is to prevent me falling over when I give myself a boost of the drugs into my spine, as the local anaesthetic makes my legs go numb.
- August 2008: have a catheter inserted into my spinal fluid which is fixed to a pump containg morphine and a local anaesthetic
- May 2008: by now, taking a few hundred milligrams of morphine per day to manage the pain
- April 2008: Chemo stops early due to side effects. No further treatment recommended at this stage, and referred to the Palliative Care Team for pain and symptom management
- March 2008: stop the Oxiloplatin part of chemo due to loss of feeling in the fingers
- December 2007: Chemotherapy recommences with forthightly treatments into a Hickman line (tube into the chest that runs up to the veins in my neck to put chemicals directly to the heart
- December 2007: doctors tell me it's incurable, but that with treatment I have probably two to three years of life left in me
- November 2007: PET scan and lymph node biopsy confirm cancer in the lymph nodes in the pelvis
- October 2007: CT and MRI show tumours on the lung, and possible tumour on prostate
- September 2007: Bring forwaard October's review, and the hospital sets up new CT and MRI scans to check out the pains
- August 2007: Pains in the pelvis begin to make sitting uncomfortable, but a couple of nurofen seem to do the trick
- April 2007: First review meeting declares all is well
- January 2007: start to work again after miraculous speed of recovery!
- November 2006: Operation to remove rectum and Sigmoid colon (the bend just before the rectum
- October 2006: Consultants confirm tumour is operable, and that permanent colostomy is probable
- September 2006: Chemo-Radiotherapy starts
- August 2006: first visit to Cookridge to meet the Chemo-radiotherapy team
- July 2006: Results confirm tumour in the rectum
- June 2006: Colonoscopy and MRI scan
- June 2006: Visit to the Colo - Rectal Clinic
- May 2006: first examination by the GP
About Attitude
Because part of the purpose of this site is to serve as a useful source for other people with cancer, and because I believe attitude is vital when facing cancer and the possibility of death because of it, I am including a precis of an earlier post about the attitude I have adopted to having cancer. The earlier post in full can be accessed by going to the bottom of this page and clicking "Older Posts".
1. Be responsible: if you are not responsible for the fact you have cancer, you are a victim of it and looking to blame your having it on something or someone else. Responsible does not mean you blame your self, just that you have the power to respond to the fact you have cancer.
2. Behaviour in the present is being given by the future you can see for yourself. If you can see surviving as a future, your behaviour will be consistent with that future.
3. You always have a choice. You can choose every second of every day the response you have to your cancer. You can choose to live powerfully with it, or not.
4. Choice can only truly occur if you have considered all the possible outcomes. A person who is scared of dying is not choosing to live, but trying not to die. This would be fine if it were not for the fact that to be this way is to continually bring the thought of dying along with you. Choosing to live once you are not afraid of death does not bring the thought of death along with it.
5. Every emotional response is valid: trying not to feel sad, or trying not to cry, or forcing oneself to try to be positive all the time is to deny your humanity. Allow yourself to feel exactly how you feel, and the feeling can then pass freely on its way without being supressed and adding more emotional pressure onto an already emotionally charged situation.
1. Be responsible: if you are not responsible for the fact you have cancer, you are a victim of it and looking to blame your having it on something or someone else. Responsible does not mean you blame your self, just that you have the power to respond to the fact you have cancer.
2. Behaviour in the present is being given by the future you can see for yourself. If you can see surviving as a future, your behaviour will be consistent with that future.
3. You always have a choice. You can choose every second of every day the response you have to your cancer. You can choose to live powerfully with it, or not.
4. Choice can only truly occur if you have considered all the possible outcomes. A person who is scared of dying is not choosing to live, but trying not to die. This would be fine if it were not for the fact that to be this way is to continually bring the thought of dying along with you. Choosing to live once you are not afraid of death does not bring the thought of death along with it.
5. Every emotional response is valid: trying not to feel sad, or trying not to cry, or forcing oneself to try to be positive all the time is to deny your humanity. Allow yourself to feel exactly how you feel, and the feeling can then pass freely on its way without being supressed and adding more emotional pressure onto an already emotionally charged situation.
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